Bereavement
I had thought that your death
Was a waste and a destruction,
A pain of grief hardly to be endured.
I am only beginning to learn
That your life was a gift and a growing
Marjorie Pizer
Was a waste and a destruction,
A pain of grief hardly to be endured.
I am only beginning to learn
That your life was a gift and a growing
Marjorie Pizer
Bereavement is a universal experience and yet we all have unique experiences of loss. We all lose family members, partners or friends at some stage in our lives. Other events like divorce or a child leaving home can give rise to very similar feelings. Even though this sort of loss is so common, when it happens to you, you may feel very alone. You may go through a whole range of emotions, often in waves: shock, sadness, disbelief, anger, guilt, depression, periods of calm, longing and an inability to trust.
One day, you may feel you are coming to terms with the loss. The next, you may be right back to where you started. You may feel you are going round and round in a ‘whirlpool of grief’ and wonder how you will ever get out of it.
Sometimes we don’t have time to grieve due to other commitments and the grief lies dormant until the time becomes available. It can be confusing when joyous events are happening at the same time, for example, giving birth, or getting married.
When you experience such a confusing welter of emotions, it can be very helpful to talk to someone will listen without judging you and who can normalise your experience. Grief is in proportion with the extent of the loss and it can be a good experience to talk about what the person/thing meant to you.
Each person is different and so I use an integrative approach which might include aspects of CBT, Psychodynamic, Gestalt, Transactional Analysis, Motivational Interviewing and prescription poetry - it depends on the individual needs. I see the therapeutic relationship as the most potent and significant element of moving forward.
Fee: £40 a few low cost places available.
One day, you may feel you are coming to terms with the loss. The next, you may be right back to where you started. You may feel you are going round and round in a ‘whirlpool of grief’ and wonder how you will ever get out of it.
Sometimes we don’t have time to grieve due to other commitments and the grief lies dormant until the time becomes available. It can be confusing when joyous events are happening at the same time, for example, giving birth, or getting married.
When you experience such a confusing welter of emotions, it can be very helpful to talk to someone will listen without judging you and who can normalise your experience. Grief is in proportion with the extent of the loss and it can be a good experience to talk about what the person/thing meant to you.
Each person is different and so I use an integrative approach which might include aspects of CBT, Psychodynamic, Gestalt, Transactional Analysis, Motivational Interviewing and prescription poetry - it depends on the individual needs. I see the therapeutic relationship as the most potent and significant element of moving forward.
Fee: £40 a few low cost places available.
