Relationships
Our greatest joy and out greatest pain comes in our relationship with others.
Stephen Covey
Stephen Covey
Relationships are complex and at some time in our lives most of us have problems with them. The prototype for how we are in relationships is set up in our first experience of relationship with our main care-giver. So if we thrived best in that relationship by being invisible, this is the strategy we become habituated to and the one we use in all subsequent relationships even when that way of being is not helpful in current relationships. What is intended and how we experience an action or comment can be very different. For example, if our partner suddenly buys us a large present without giving us an explanation, although his/her intentions may have been well-meaning, we may be very suspicious. A good relationship depends on good communication, but we often assume that our loved ones must know how we feel. This is not the case.
Ways of being with our partners can feel so rigid that we can forget that we have choices about how we behave in that relationship. We may feel unloved, unappreciated, unacknowledged and so on. Relationships can feel persecutory, if we do not tell our partners how we are feeling, we become more and more resentful and angry.
Together we can explore the patterns in your relationships, including our relationship. You can then decide if a change of behaviour would serve you or not. If so we can come up with strategies and I can provide a safe place in which you could experiment with new behaviour. I can offer different perspectives on events, while at the same time validating your experience of the situation. The session will give you the space and time to talk through your feelings and your thoughts.
Each person is different and so I use an integrative approach which might include aspects of CBT, Psychodynamic, Gestalt, Transactional Analysis, Motivational Interviewing and prescription poetry - it depends on the individual needs. I see the therapeutic relationship as the most potent and significant element of moving forward.
Fee: £40 a few low cost places available.
Ways of being with our partners can feel so rigid that we can forget that we have choices about how we behave in that relationship. We may feel unloved, unappreciated, unacknowledged and so on. Relationships can feel persecutory, if we do not tell our partners how we are feeling, we become more and more resentful and angry.
Together we can explore the patterns in your relationships, including our relationship. You can then decide if a change of behaviour would serve you or not. If so we can come up with strategies and I can provide a safe place in which you could experiment with new behaviour. I can offer different perspectives on events, while at the same time validating your experience of the situation. The session will give you the space and time to talk through your feelings and your thoughts.
Each person is different and so I use an integrative approach which might include aspects of CBT, Psychodynamic, Gestalt, Transactional Analysis, Motivational Interviewing and prescription poetry - it depends on the individual needs. I see the therapeutic relationship as the most potent and significant element of moving forward.
Fee: £40 a few low cost places available.
